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Denial

It has been a tough week. Denial and his sidekicks, Minimalization and Rationalization were running around my office getting in everyone’s head. Those scoundrels wreak havoc wherever they go. Denial whispers prettily, “Why go for that mammogram? You feel fine and it hurts sooo much!”. Minimalization coos gently, “It is not abuse if he only […]

Lessons from my Garden: Denial

Frequently, I hear gardeners refer to their passion for growing things as “therapy”. In considering this definition of gardening, I assumed they mean that playing in the dirt with plants was relaxing-like a massage, or rewarding-like a jelly donut. A few years back, my gardening attempts resulted my own therapeutic moment – after two years, […]

Why We Stay in Bad Relationships-Exploring Our Part

The erosion of a relationship happens over time in slight incremental ways. In reality, no one would enter a relationship where they were treated badly. So, it follows that all relationships start out good and decline over time. As that decline progresses, we find ways to deal with these changes- first, we may try to […]

Is Lack of Humility Ruining our Relationships?

Clearly a growing trend, we are discussing “personality disorders” in ways we have not in the past. In just this past year, Psychology Today has run three cover stories on personality disorders. Clients who come to see me are now more educated and familiar with  narcissistic, sociopathic and borderline personality.  More and more, we are […]