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Denial

It has been a tough week. Denial and his sidekicks, Minimalization and Rationalization were running around my office getting in everyone’s head. Those scoundrels wreak havoc wherever they go. Denial whispers prettily, “Why go for that mammogram? You feel fine and it hurts sooo much!”. Minimalization coos gently, “It is not abuse if he only […]

Lessons from my Garden: Denial

Frequently, I hear gardeners refer to their passion for growing things as “therapy”. In considering this definition of gardening, I assumed they mean that playing in the dirt with plants was relaxing-like a massage, or rewarding-like a jelly donut. A few years back, my gardening attempts resulted my own therapeutic moment – after two years, […]

Why We Stay in Bad Relationships-Exploring Our Part

The erosion of a relationship happens over time in slight incremental ways. In reality, no one would enter a relationship where they were treated badly. So, it follows that all relationships start out good and decline over time. As that decline progresses, we find ways to deal with these changes- first, we may try to […]

The Impossible Relationship: Seeking Freedom and Finding Peace

In the last two weeks we have discussed the Impossible Relationship (IR) and the Impossible Partner(IP). Those blogs focused on the characteristics of an IP, and understanding how your self-doubt plays into the chaos and drama. This week, in the last blog of this series, we will explore how to deal with Impossible Partners when […]