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Divorce: Not a Do-It-Yourself Project

Frequently, people who are unhappy in their marriages wait until after the holiday season to move ahead with the dissolution of their marriage. If you are one of those folks who have made this decision you know it is not easy to make that first move. Sometimes people struggle for years in unhappy relationships before […]

Conflicted Grief: Loss and Guilt during the Holidays

Grief, while difficult to deal with at any time, is often magnified at moments of celebration. Holidays are times not only of celebration, rituals and traditions; they are also times of sharing memories and with those memories we all face loss and sadness. This is one of the reasons so many people have difficulty at […]

The Gifts of Change-What Do We Give (Up) at the Holidays?

Two of the most prevalent issues in my practice are people considering if and when to divorce and people considering if and when to quit drinking. While these two major life changes seem to have little in common, when it comes to the holidays both reach a stumbling block. The unhappy spouse will say, “I […]

Dealing with Loss and the Holidays: Replace Dread with Action

As the leaves begin to turn and the temperatures drop, we pack away our sandals and shorts and find ourselves dealing with those boxes of winter clothes, Christmas ornaments and miscellaneous holiday mementos. Truthfully we do not need reminding of the upcoming holidays, the stores have begun putting out their Christmas decorations long before we […]