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Whose Name Is It, Anyway?

Two weeks ago, I posted the blog Should a Woman Change her Last Name when She Divorces? An interesting response from Attorney Chip Mues followed. He sent me his blog from a few years ago, which addresses the question “Can a man make a woman give up HIS name when they divorce?” Actually, this is [...]

Walking on Egg Shells?

“Walking on egg shells” refers to an adaptive behavior we employ to guard against feeling judged, criticized or ostracized.  When we are unsure of what is being asked of us or we are afraid to stir things up, stick our necks out, experience rejection, hurt someone’s feelings, appear stupid or because we really, really just [...]

Should a Woman Change her Last Name when She Divorces?

       Recently an article appeared in Huffington Post exploring how women feel about changing their name when they married. According to knot.com who conducted a survey of 19,000 women who married last year, 86% of those surveyed took their husbands’ name. It got me thinking…what percentage of women keep their husband’s name after divorce and why? [...]

Dealing with the Peripheral Losses of our Decisions

Every change brings with it some peripheral loss. For example, in changing jobs there may be loss of established friendships, or in moving to a better house, there may be unaccounted for costs. Every change we make, even if it is a welcome change and by choice, produces peripheral loss. First time parents give up [...]

Part Three-My Partner is having an Emotional Affair!! What should I do??

In parts one and two of this series, we discussed what defines an emotional affair and some of the reasons they may happen. Now we move onto perhaps the most difficult aspect-what to do if you find your spouse is participating in an emotional affair. If you DO discover (or even suspect that) your spouse is [...]