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Are You Better or Bitter?

        The end of a relationship is filled with anguish, disappointment, great sadness and often, much anger. After time has passed and the dust settles, Lana began to notice that she felt ‘‘better” and ready to “move on.” Lana reported the divorce was no longer an issue in her life. Good for her! I nodded [...]

Children in Blended Families: What We Want Our Step-Parents to Know

When dealing with children in step-families, it is important to remember that blended families are always created after a loss. The child has experienced either a divorce or death of a parent. Even in cases when a parent was not previously married, the assumption is the child will welcome the new spouse with the same [...]

Renewable Marriage: Problem or Progress?

Most of us are aware of the high percentage of divorces in the United States. Some reports indicate that 50% of all marriages will end in divorce. As devastating as it is to have a love relationship end, it is compounded by the arduous process of divorce; the fighting over finances and children can go [...]

The One That Got Away

Alfred Tennyson said, “In the spring a young man’s fancy lightly turns to thoughts of love.” Perhaps it can also be said, “In the winter a not so young woman’s fancy turns to thoughts of Googling old love.”  January can be a bit of a bummer. The magic and merriment of the holidays have passed. [...]

Your Year in Review 2011: Without Resolutions!

As we herald in the New Year, many begin thinking about making resolutions. However, before you burden yourself with a lengthy list of overwhelming goals for 2012, consider this: Resolutions are just self deprecation with spin. They are born of our relentless focus on our deficits. The worse we feel about ourselves the more resolutions [...]